Some of you that read this I have known for years, some of you may be visiting for the first time and some of you I share a very special bond with...we are the the wives or significant others of a future or current physician. I talk about some of our experiences every now and then, but the focus of my blog has never been medical school. Unfortunately, I'll probably start posting a lot more about it as we are nearing some big milestones like match, graduation and the great unknown that lies ahead. For those of you who are relatively clueless about what marriage to a medical student, resident or attending spouse is like, this post will provide some amazing insight. I was completely blown away by her thoughtfulness and honesty. She really just has great advice that anyone who is married or in a serious relationship can learn from. I know there are things that my friends will never be able to understand about the kind of life Kody and I lead and there are things I will never be able to understand about the marriage they have as well.
Kody and I have spent the last few weeks talking and talking and talking some more about residency. It has always been a hot topic with us (in a good way!), but now that he knows and I mean really knows what he wants to do it kind of consumes us. There are so many factors to consider when looking at different residency programs, so many I won't even begin to go into it in detail. We do know a few things though, there is a very high probability we will have to move again, there is a very high probability that we will not know a soul where we are going and there is a very high probability that our lives are going to be turned upside down for the following five to seven years. It is all exciting and all scary.
So many times over the last few weeks I have just been amazed to step back and see how our life has fallen into place. There are so many things that had to happen to bring us to where we are today and to give us the opportunities we have for the future. Some of them at the time seemed so wrong, like when Kody's MCAT scores weren't released the first year he applied and we had no where to go. More than likely we would have ended up in Texas if his scores had gone through that year. However, because they didn't we ended up in Tulsa and were able to stay close to both of our families. What a blessing. I also like to look back on my life growing up and I see how amazing it is that I was brought into the family that I was and that I had the experiences growing up that I did. My mom was the best example of a physician's spouse. She never complained, she was involved in the community, she had her own friends, and she took care of me and my sister. My mom is the best person at being able to make the best of any situation. My parents have also been blessed with a happy marriage, despite their crazy life. Now I look at Kody, who has decided orthopedic surgery is the only place for him, and I just pray that I can be half the woman my mother is so I can support him the way she supports my dad!
I know this was long, but as we near the end of third year there is a distinct light at the end of the tunnel...which actually just leads to another really long and dark tunnel, but I know there is light at the end of that one as well. Read the post I posted above, maybe I will be that wise in ten years.